Awake Woman Interviews: Sarah Durham Wilson of DOITGIRL

I've been drawn to Sarah's writings for awhile now. She speaks in ways about the divine feminine that ring so true, so raw, and inspire me to continuously follow the thread of divine feminine awakening, even when it feels like the world is falling apart.

In a world where vulnerability is the new black, Sarah writes in a way that feels both personal and universal...something that authenticity often lacks. Sometimes her writings feel like a digital Joni Mitchell, straddling the line between raw confession and the common human experience. In other words, she speaks the language of the modern wild woman. But a language many people are too afraid to speak.

I return to her work time and again to reconnect to that raw, real feminine we all crave. The feminine unafraid to feel, grow, awaken, and rebirth, day after day after day. I invite you to do the same.

Throughout this interview, she talks about her creative process and what it means to live a life led by the muse. If you're interested in more of Sarah's work, check out her beautiful website. She offers transformational books and courses, and her newsletter is always worth reading. 


10 years ago, how would you have imagined your life right now? How is your reality different now?

Wow, these are great questions. Ten years ago I was working at Interview magazine, I was an arts journalist in NYC & had just fallen in love with a musician, and I was positive that was it, he was the rest of my life. I thought eventually I would write a book, have a child, be a wife. 

Now? I'm sitting in a cottage in Martha's Vineyard by a fire with my dog. I'm writing you about my work, which is very similar to what you do, serving and supporting the Feminine awakening on the planet. I've put out a book of diaries, a book of poetry, I'm almost finished with my fiction novel & editing a book of the first Coven Conversations. I'm about to head back to New Mexico (where I spent the summer) to co-host a women's gathering with my sister Shakti Sunfire at Ghost Ranch. Then I'll head to Peru the month after that to work with Shamans. So my reality is very, very, beyond my wildest dreams different. I think I kept hoping to take a backseat in life, drink a glass of wine while someone else drove. Numbed & comfortable. Life demanded I wake up & get in the driver's seat and lead. That can be lonely, exhausting, thrilling, humbling. I think a lot of women know that feeling. "Oh shit, the fairytales are a lie. No one is coming to save me." Which leads back to the hero's journey: it starts with realizing no one else is coming to save us, so it's up to each one of us. 

Which leads back to the hero’s journey: it starts with realizing no one else is coming to save us, so it’s up to each one of us.

What inspired you to start your own business? What was your greatest fear getting started? What is your greatest hope?

People often refer to DOITGIRL as a business, but I don't even know how to do my own taxes, or keep my receipts. Every time someone asks me if I want a receipt I freeze like a deer in headlights. It's almost like they asked me the meaning of life. I'm like, "I don't know... maybe?" So while DOITGIRL keeps me very "busy," I don't really call it a business, but a pen name, a moniker, a voice for the feminine, some days a name of a crusade. I never had a moment where I "launched my business." I had a very wild disruptive awakening, a crash course into the spiritual life, and I began to write from that place, of a more open consciousness. 

How does your intuition influence your creativity?

It's absolutely everything. I think of my writing like a tuning fork. I know that when it sings from within me, I've struck something in me and being as we're all one, there's a good chance it will strike something in another. And it comes from my gut, the place my intuition speaks. I have to wait til the words hit that perfect pitch. I have to wait until I'm in-spired, meaning full of spirit. It's not a machine I can turn on and off, it's something I wait to be moved by. 

What do you enjoy most about writing?

I would die if I couldn't do it. I don't enjoy it but I need it like air. And I get pregnant with thoughts and ideas and I have to lay down and birth them before I can move on with my life. I walk around with swollen ankles and pickle cravings and a majorly short fuse until I release my writings.  

I walk around with swollen ankles and pickle cravings and a majorly short fuse until I release my writings.

What has influenced your work the most?

I guess influenced and inspired are one in the same, I love Mary Oliver's love for the animal kingdom & the teachings of nature. I love Anais Nin for her unbridled femininity & sexuality. But mostly, I'm inspired by women, the ones who walk through fire again and again, who fall only to rise, who die for love and burn with love for their loved ones & the earth. I'm inspired by humans, the human capacity to feel so much. To rise time and time again. Humans inspire me. The other day I watched a man walk an old lady across a busy road, and they were clearly strangers. I started to cry at his kindness that needed no audience or thank yous. The day before that I watched a sea gull with one foot struggle to stand in the sand. He had such dignity. It reminded me of the D. H. Lawrence quote, "I never say a wild thing sorry for itself."  Also bawled. So, humans and animals and the earth. I love them. 

Who are your favorite role models and inspirations? 

My dad for his patience and kindness and straight up GOODNESS. He taught me to care far past my tiny privileged bubble, and to GET that I was privileged in the first place. My dog for her presence, loyalty & forgiveness & love for absolutely everyone. And I love Bill Hicks, Terence McKenna, Georgia O'Keeffe. 

If your future self were to give one piece of advice, what would it be?
Hey Sarah, you're beautiful & miraculous. Ease up on the wine, ditch the pills, leave behind the covers & the judgements of others. Stay in your lane, stop comparing yourself to others or thinking anyone else has the magic key to the door to heaven. We are each given our own key, keep looking in not out. Oh and you will find your purpose, and once you find it, stop questioning it. Rise up into it. 

10 years from now, what do you hope to be doing?
Telling my daughter she looks beautiful & she's brilliant & I love her before she leaves for school. Hearing the ocean breathe while my husband massages my neck. Planning dinner in my mind, writing a check for a charity, wearing the softest most feminine clothes while standing strong for what I believe in. 

Sarah Durham Wilson is an artist, writer, & curator who began her career in New York City as a rock journalist.

She leads courses and retreats with movement & underworld guide Shakti Sunfire, as well as her own courses on healing the self to heal the world while engaging in summits and international conversations which seek to heal & rise the feminine on the planet. She doesn't identify as a teacher, but a seeker who shares in circles. She believes once a woman moves inside of herself to heal her own body, she rises to heal the body of the world. To find her current writings, please visit here